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My Feminism

Recent changes in my life has led me to a more reflective path especially when my role instantly added one more part – that of a mom.

As a wife and mother, sacrifices are a must. Heck, it’s part of the job description! But doing those sacrifices doesn’t make me weak. No. It makes me stronger knowing that I am still whole, I am still me even if I have to give up certain things I want to do in favor of my husband’s and son’s happiness. It may not sit well with others especially the ultra feminists out there but I don’t really agree with how they define feminism.

For me, being a feminist does not mean you have to overpower men with every opportunity you get. It doesn’t mean you have to beat men into submission with everything you say and/or do. It doesn’t mean that women are better than men. My definition of feminism means being comfortable with being a woman, including all the flaws and weaknesses that go with it – embracing you for who you truly are, not who you think society wants you to be. It means accepting that sometimes women are stronger than men but sometimes we are also weaker and that is ok, especially if we do not lose our sense of self. Being a feminist in my view is being an equal to man. Never up there nor down below but always on the same level as he is – always and forever.

Back! ^_^

We easily get tangled with life’s messes, easily get ensnared and distracted as life keeps moving forward at a fast pace. I am no exception.

As I enjoyed all that life had to offer, I forgot the passion of my heart. I let myself be fooled that it was just a hobby, nothing more than a passing fancy. I know better now, I hit my head hard and woke up. It hurt but it shook me to the reality of my predicament. I am good at this. This is a big part of my life. So, it is with much joy and happiness that I go back to writing. An activity that has made me who I am today, something that they say I am talented at. Something that I know I am good at. It will be a rough ride, as it has always been. At times, I will again doubt myself, give up even, but my heart is stronger now. My soul has been renewed. I am alive with a brightly burning hope in my being. And I say, hello everyone. Let’s do this!

Foodcourt Thoughts

Hi guys! Here’s to another absent-minded rants I have while waiting for my husband at the foodcourt. So, how have you been?

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A writer’s mind is never at rest, it is forever in a marathon. Sprinting, dashing, running – especially at night when everyone is asleep and the world basks in the glow of the moonlight. It is then that the mysterious, charming, and cunning is revealed.

A writer’s mind is always active. The problem is when they suddenly think of something extremely good to write and they can’t write it down immediately because they’re busy with everyday tasks and so it disappears. Like a will-o’-the-wisp it has suddenly vanished, making the writer think that it was just a dream.

The best writing is one that is not forced, not thought about or analyzed in any way possible. The best writing is one that comes straight from the heart. As you close your eyes to feel the rhythm of the music so do you open your heart & let go to feel your emotions. Let all the pain, hurt, sorrow, love, joy, happiness, elation, shock, and surprise flow. Even if it overwhelms you, more so if it scares you. Why? Because it really is scary at first, like letting go of a raft and letting yourself be washed away by the waves to destinies unknown. But that is exactly what great, exceptional writing is – the rawness, heart on the sleeve, almost wide-eyed naïveté that haunts you to the very depths of your soul and arrests your mind. It doesn’t just touch your whole being, it sears you and becomes part of you. That’s what great writing is all about. Find the ability to truly write from your heart. Be one with your self and develop sympathy as well as empathy. Great writing feels and is felt.

Artists – writers, painters, musicians – have the most sensitive souls, the strongest of hearts, and the most philosophical minds. I guess that’s why people find them great and weird at the same time. From the time they have discovered their craft, they have always walked the line between madness and genius, sometimes either the other but almost always both. Largely, it depends on the century they’re living in.

Believe

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As soon as I saw this necklace on Bradford Exchange I knew I had to have it. Not because I am terribly fond of butterflies and flowers but more because of the writing on the back.

All writers know that writing is a hard and lonely road filled with doubts and hopelessness. Yes, writing is a very rewarding task but as with everything it also has its dark days. That is why writers have something they hold on to during those troubled times. Something that will help them keep working on their dream, something that will remind them that giving up is not an option.

This necklace is a way for me to not forget why I write, despite of all the frustrations and setbacks I keep encountering. Whenever I feel myself giving in to self-doubt and giving up I just touch my necklace and remember the words written on the back. I am then reminded that first and foremost, I have to believe in the beauty of my dreams. It may be hard now but one day, this will be all worth it. The keyword is to believe, to believe in ourselves and in our dreams. If not, then nothing remains, all of the things we do will be for naught.

 

My Blog

Since I started my blog, a number of people have sent me messages asking what exactly is my niche. Why is there a lot of categories in my blog? Shouldn’t there be just one category – if it’s poetry then it should all just be poetry, not a smorgasbord of different writing genres. I beg to differ.

My blog is what it is. It is a reflection of who I am, both as a person and as a writer. I had trouble fitting in since I was young, not for lack of trying but I never really got along well with people. I was always the odd one out and the fact that it didn’t bother me that much made me the weird one. I’d be a hypocrite though if I said it didn’t make me sad, of course it did but I did not dwell on it. Just like me, my blog does not and will never fit in. It is the lone wolf-the odd one out. It was created for the sole purpose of sharing my writing, a big part of myself, to the world. And because I enjoy different types of writing then that’s what people now see: articles, poems, random thoughts, essays, short stories, and book ideas.

I guess all I want to say is, if someone passionately loves to write then they shouldn’t limit themselves to just one genre. They can concentrate on poetry or novel writing if that’s what they want but that shouldn’t stop them as well from exploring article writing or short story writing. Kind of like an actor who focuses on making movies but does not shy away from starring in tv shows once in a while or in a theatre play. As a writer, one should also explore every niche to quench one’s imagination and creativity.

I believe that writing as an art form should be freeing, not limiting and in that sense I am proud that my blog reflects my belief even if it does confuse others. As the old adage goes, “Write for yourself”, because only then will you be able to write well 😉

Happy New Year!

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It’s 2016! How’s your new year so far? It’s a quiet celebration for me and my family as usual. We just watched the different styles of fireworks from our balcony then ate a little (we call it Media Noche here in the Philippines). My husband and I then watched a few episodes of Star Trek: The Next Generation (I still prefer the original series though) before finally going to bed.

I hope you guys had a wonderful new year celebration as well. Thanks again for following my blog. I really appreciate it. You’re awesome!

Bye 2015!

As 2015 comes to a close, allow me to thank each and everyone of you for all your support, especially when my book came out. I never expected these overwhelming belief in me and my writing. Words are not enough to show my appreciation to you, my dear friends and thank you seems insufficient for all the wonderful encouragement you have given me. Thank you for inspiring me in reaching my dreams and for being such great readers and newfound friends! May you all have a wonderful celebration as we usher in the new year. Take care everyone!

An Update on Me ^_^

Hi everyone! Although I have only been absent for a month, a lot has changed since then. As they say, change will always be the only constant thing in life. What has changed so far, you ask? There’s really been only one but it’s a big one. Way back in July, I found out I was pregnant. Yup, barely 3 months into my marriage and I was already going to be a mom after nine months. That brought on a barrage of mixed emotions. I was scared, nervous, shocked, happy, and a bit excited all at once. My husband was, to say the least, surprised as well. Since then, all my plans for selling and marketing my book, updating my blog, and working on my other books all went out the window as I struggled to accept this development. Five months into my pregnancy I am still nervous about being a mother, the big question that bugs me is if I will be a good enough mom to this precious bundle of joy especially since I am not ready (let’s face it though, who can say they really were?). But I have come to accept the way my life keeps turning out, full of surprises, love, and laughter. It definitely makes life colorful and worth living so I wouldn’t have it any other way.

One of the drawbacks to this pregnancy is I can’t take my bipolar medications so I have been having attacks for the past few months, luckily with my husband by my side, I can manage it most days. Another thing is, I have found myself not being able to write anything – not even a single stanza of a poem for my second book. Hence, the absence here.

Patience is the key though, I know as with all the other times I have suffered from my manic attacks and writer’s block that I will bounce back. Stronger than before. So this is me, trying to bounce back slowly but determinedly. I can’t wait to update my blog again and finally sell my poetry book UNMASKED. I hope you guys didn’t get tired waiting for me.

Talk to you again soon,
Gen

Morning Thoughts

More and more, the so-called “third sex” rights is gaining a lot of momentum and it is hard for most people, me included, to easily accept it mainly because of what our Holy Book (Bible, Quran, etc.) say. How do we stay true to our beliefs but at the same time respect the LGBT community? I find it hard and painful to also accept that just because a person is gay/lesbian then they are immediately condemned to hell. I have friends who are gay/lesbians and they are the best people I have ever known, the truest friends I have ever had. Furthermore, I find it hard to accept that my God, the God who taught me through Jesus to be compassionate and tolerant, would be so cold hearted to those belonging to the LGBT community. I guess, as my mom would say, in the end, it is up to God to say who goes to heaven and who goes to hell, not us. All we can do is love and respect every living thing in this world and keep praying that He will always guide us to do what is right according to Him – not according to any person on earth who most of the times twists the Holy Book’s words for personal gain.