Before I had my son, I didn’t know I could love as much as I do now. Friends kept asking me, “What changed?” and during my son’s early months, I couldn’t answer them. I think the change came gradually. Before I knew it, everything that I did was because of my son and for my son. My thoughts and life purpose is consumed by him.
I never knew love as pure and as overwhelming as I look upon my son. He has become not only my world but my life. Sometimes when I hold him, hug and kiss him, I feel as if my heart is going to burst from so much love for him. I think all mothers would agree with me when I say that our heart has grown exponentially just to accommodate this humongous love we have and feel for our child/children. I look at my son and I could see all of my hopes and dreams in this little guy. He has become the personification of all my hopes and dreams. It’s like falling in love for the very first time. The kind of love that you discover the first time, without any pain and heartbreak.
Like all mothers, I know I will never get tired of my child. He, along with his father, is the love of my life and my world. I know nothing is perfect but my life now with my son is close to it. It doesn’t, and will never, get any better than this.
Recent changes in my life has led me to a more reflective path especially when my role instantly added one more part – that of a mom.
As a wife and mother, sacrifices are a must. Heck, it’s part of the job description! But doing those sacrifices doesn’t make me weak. No. It makes me stronger knowing that I am still whole, I am still me even if I have to give up certain things I want to do in favor of my husband’s and son’s happiness. It may not sit well with others especially the ultra feminists out there but I don’t really agree with how they define feminism.
For me, being a feminist does not mean you have to overpower men with every opportunity you get. It doesn’t mean you have to beat men into submission with everything you say and/or do. It doesn’t mean that women are better than men. My definition of feminism means being comfortable with being a woman, including all the flaws and weaknesses that go with it – embracing you for who you truly are, not who you think society wants you to be. It means accepting that sometimes women are stronger than men but sometimes we are also weaker and that is ok, especially if we do not lose our sense of self. Being a feminist in my view is being an equal to man. Never up there nor down below but always on the same level as he is – always and forever.